2 Corininthians 12:9 - But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. 10That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
This past weekend was sort of an odd couple of days. Friday night we got to go see our dear friends Brandon and April in concert with their church. It was a night of worship and it really was. Nothing like raising hands and singing your heart out to our most awesome God ... and along with hundreds of people sure makes for a great evening. God is really using Brandon and April, in their music and gifts they have been given. Love those 2. Saturday I spent the day working in the yard as the weather was perfect to be outside. Carol and Kyle went to his old school for fall festival and thats something I usually go to but I was just needing some space. Some quiet time, some me time which I know and admit I don't take enough of. So after yard work, I got Payton, my girl Siberian husky, and we hit the road. I had to stop and work and get some boxes for a family that is moving so we went in the office. Payton got to meet some folks and she seemed to really enjoy that. We dropped off the boxes and had a chance to catch up with the dad, talk about the upcoming move and see 2 of the kids I lead at church. It was good to see them and be able to sit and talk for a few moments and catch up. Life is stressful during a move and life is so much on change ... most people people don't do well with change. They took me over to see their new home which is pretty amazing and then Payton and I hit the park. Got a few miles walked and then headed home. Scarowinds Saturday was a ton of fun. Me, Kyle, Ethan, Morgan, Taylor and Kayla enjoyed the park, the scary stuff was just over the top as they don't hold back to get the scare out of you. Intimidator at night as always is pretty cool but the park had a different feel to it with all the smoke and different color lights. We didn't get home until very late and that makes for a tough morning to get up and get setup done at church. As always Pastor Jimmy, Pastor Travis brought a great message. The band was awesome and Kayla did a great job on that last song, so much so that I brought in the Student Ministry to hear it.
Kyle and I spent an hour or so after church with my coworker and his family at the hospital. Things are going ok there and hopefully they will be home today. We got news that Kate was in an accident Sunday morning with her school trip. They were headed to a state park for a day outside. The suburban lost control and flipped a few times. One student was killed and another in serious condition. Thankfully Kate is only banged up and was released from the hospital. Here a teen girl, in a school to help her troubles in life, is killed... life taken so quickly. Sunday night Donna and the girls brought over dinner and the girls wanted to watch a movie. I had just got in the mail, the passion of the Christ. It was time to let them watch it. Pastor Travis spoke on our faith being lazy these days and how we have to be motivated and uncomfortable where our faith is. So it was time to let them see it. What started off as a movie, turned into a real life experience. But for me ... I had seen this movie a long time before but I was at a much different place in my faith then compared to now. I was asking questions and telling Morgan and Kyle who folks were and how history and events took place and why. By the time we got to the end... the suffering was just too much for me. My heart was hurting, tears on my face, I just couldnt watch it anymore. I walked out the back door. An hour later still sobbing, heart breaking, in the most incredible God moving moments... my family came to get me. I have not had a moment like last night where I was dealing with God in such a powerful way since the news of my mom being sick. I checked into the hotel across the street that night and tore that place apart. I asked God every question I could as to why He had to take my mom. I begged for Him to heal her. I sobbed like I had never sobbed before in my life. It all just came out - much like last night. These are very personal moments so I wont give all the details. Ask and I will share them in person because a whisper from God is not to be taken lightly. As that evening in that hotel room came to a close, after I exhausted all that was in me - it was then that God told me to trust Him. That He would heal my mom but not in the way I wanted Him to. He had much bigger work for me to do here, to lead my family, to show others Him through taking care of my mom and to be His hands and feet during this season. My mom passed and God held true to his promises then as he continues to do today. Last night I unloaded a lot that I have been carrying around. My family was there and by my side I got to share the burdens and pain and stress and heart that I am carrying. Like Paul who had a thorn in his side - 3 times he asked God to take it away and God responded that through Pauls weakness, He would be strong. I so feel that today. Those words are like lifting me off the ground today. Its a tough day for sure as I am exhausted from the experience last night but I am so thankful. I don't know what I am going to say to Kyle, Morgan, Taylor and Donna when I see them next. I just have to pray that their hearts are changed as well. They see the suffering of what God has called me to do. I am in the boat and for sure I can't turn back. I have to press on because there is victory in what God has called me to do. Those wounds and seeing Christ hanging on the cross last night in that movie really put things into perspective and reminded me all that Christ has done for me. I am reminded all that He is doing through me. Most people dont get what I have poured so much into with this student ministry. Most people get their kids to a certain age and then dont like them anymore. They love them, they just either need a break, frustrated, don't know what to do and in some cases are at the point where they just need some flippin help. God has given me a heart for these kids. Hey I didn't even like kids except for Kyle until I started in Kyles 3rd grade class helping out and having lunch with him and his classmates. I began to blossom into this journey. God allowed me to live back in 1999 so that He can do something through me. I am thankful He is still teaching me and bringing me to a place where I am broke down, on my face, heart open, around the people who are closest to me and then whisper to not give up. God never calls us to do something easy. Often times when He calls us to do something we don't even understand it... nevertheless be able to do it without him.
God really pressed on me last night to stay the course. To not lose hope. To not back down. To press on even when people don't understand. My heart is moved to a place to trust Him more.
God moved me to a place where I felt as if God was saying, "If you cannot worship me with all you have, do not worship me at all. I dont want your halfway heart."
Loved ones there is no more critical goal in life than to keep a pliable heart before God. If we show up to worship and have our cells out texting, talking, not paying attention, attending church only because this guy or gal is there... then we have it all wrong. If we are to live our lives on fire for God on Monday and spent and burnt out by Tuesday we need to make some changes. If our Bibles have dust on them but let people believe we are digging into Gods word we are only fooling ourselves.
Fully committed and truly devoted, are you willing to let your faith affect things in your life like morals, relationships, money management and even in some cases your career paths......? If not, then maybe you dont know Christ as well as you should. What is holding you back? Remove the distractions, let yourself go in worship, follow and do what the Word says. Cut the cord on that relationship if needed so that you can follow Christ with all your heart and let Him affect everything about you.
I got to know Christ a little more last night... I am broken but I am blessed because God is still shaping me. I pray you let God get to know you better today.
Through my weakness.... God is strong.
Thank you Jesus,
Lonnie~
Monday, October 18, 2010
Thursday, October 14, 2010
LOL - Bible study was different last night. Not the fact I picked up students to take them there, spend time with them there, McDonalds afterwards, good deep conversations and shared laughs time with many, Txt messages for parents to pick up, then drop off students at home. Its a whirlwind of an evening - hopefully all focused and centered around Christ. Last night I didn't get to hear the message but did get pulled in on a family situation. I am totally cool with that and I am thankful to be there for this family. It really has me thinking this morning about that leadership role in Youth.....
Our youth are on the fast and furious of learning and imitating their parents. They are watching, listening and doing what we as parents are doing. When we are not lining up our words with our actions - mixed signals are being received thus causing confusion and even frustration at times. When those 2 things happen, our children make poor choices, start hanging with the wrong crowd, have image problems, slip in their faith, and usually start walking down a harder road alone because they dont see us as leaders by example. They dont see value in following when what they see isn't lining up. I see it every day and its even in my own life and as a parent. Being a leader to youth and family, a role model for many, a friend and life coach - really will humble you and the meaning of Grace really comes alive.
I am in Ephesians 5 and then in Galations 6 today.
Ephesians 5: Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and game himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Galations 6: Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each others burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.
If you think you are too important to help someone, loved ones, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Our teens need us to be leaders, not only in our families, MEN I am talking to you! - but also to those around you who you have influence with. I love the kids in my life, yes they drive me crazy, let me down at times, and all those things but I love them regardless. Many times I am enjoying them smile and being there for them when they need a lift, an encouraging word, or an ear to talk to. They need guidance, not another friend - they have plenty of those, but a spiritual leader who has their back, who will gently realign them and cheer for them in life. Nothing is more important than a kind word or a "You Can Do It" from someone they respect and listen to. Especially when its not their parents!
~Youth ministry is relational. Without relationship you can only be surface level. How are you? The weather is great! How is school? - nothing of importance in those conversations. When you are flexing flexibility, sensitivity and some wisdom ...then you are getting somewhere.
~Youth leader, you teach and model Gods ways in all you do and all you say so walk the walk and talk the talk. You have to have genuine faith and to be effective you must spend time with God, pray and model for your students. They will give us plenty of grace for their ups and down of walking with Christ but in the end we have to model to them that we are growing and walking with Christ. For your students, if you are hungry and thirsty for Christ, chances are they will be as well.
~Youth leader, we must have healthy relationships outside of the students. We all need someone in our lives who we can connect with that are other God loving adults who sharpen us. A leader who goes without being renewed will burn out or fizz out spiritually. We cannot always be in the lead role.
~Youth leader, you need accountability. If there is something in your life you are struggling with. Confess it and make it public to those trusted peeps in your life. They will hold you accountable and will make sure your walk is on the straight and arrow. Without it, you will surely fall back to those same habits. Your faith is not meant to be alone ... we all need someone to walk with us. Your students may look to you for this role in their life ... embrace it and hold it to the highest standards that you can. Get help if needed by more experienced and wise counsel if the situation is too much.
~Youth leader, you need to worship! Worship should flow out of your heart because it shows the love you have in your heart for Christ. I often use worship music to fill my heart up so that I can pour out the extra I have into them. I am especially pumped for Jeremy Camp next week and then Nov 3rd 10th Ave North... Brandon is leading worship tomorrow night and a bunch of us are going! This is getting your worship on! Yes music our students listen to is pretty well, out there and probably not the best example of honoring God many times. But, provide them an example without putting them down. Our parents didn't like our music either!
I have been leading in the church now for a few years in a few different roles. Working with youth and leading has got to be the toughest role in the church. Little did I know entering this ministry I would become a pastor to dozens of teenagers. Be preparing lessons each week not only for student ministry but also for my small group both adults and students. Little did I know that I would spend so much of my own money on McDonalds after LOL, Chikfila when a student wants to talk, Starbucks when a walk and talk is in order, and gas money driving around picking students up to get them places. Never did I imagine there wouldn't be much time for the gym and thus my Crestor expense has went up because of not working out and all the meals I am eating at McDonalds, Chikfila and Bojangles. :) - Never did I thought I would be texting but in order to communicate with students... my thumbs are worn down from the daily text messages hitting my phone all day and even in the night. Never would I have thought I would be in the middle of family issues that were not my own family. I have always been a good listener but this takes it to the next level! I never would have thought this ministry would take up so much time. Especially away from my own family.
I am often times wanting to pinch myself - I get overwhelmed at times with emotion knowing that God has allowed me to be this much of an influence in the lives of others. I cannot believe how much my heart is connected to these students and their families that they really feel like family to me. They are so much a part of who I am. I hope when I am dead and gone, folks will remember me for that. Living a life serving others and a friend to many. A real friend. A friend that will pray for you every day, ask for your forgiveness, grant you the same and be a friend always. Thats grace. That kind of grace can only be experienced through Jesus.
I am living life larger than life itself. I am grateful in so many ways.
I will end this long heart felt post today with this:
Galations 6: 10 - Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially those who belong to the family of believers.
Loved ones, we are all the same on the inside and God loves each of us. Extend grace where grace is needed. Let us encourage one another with kind and loving words. Reach out to those who need a hand and smile. It reflects your heart.
Lonnie~
Our youth are on the fast and furious of learning and imitating their parents. They are watching, listening and doing what we as parents are doing. When we are not lining up our words with our actions - mixed signals are being received thus causing confusion and even frustration at times. When those 2 things happen, our children make poor choices, start hanging with the wrong crowd, have image problems, slip in their faith, and usually start walking down a harder road alone because they dont see us as leaders by example. They dont see value in following when what they see isn't lining up. I see it every day and its even in my own life and as a parent. Being a leader to youth and family, a role model for many, a friend and life coach - really will humble you and the meaning of Grace really comes alive.
I am in Ephesians 5 and then in Galations 6 today.
Ephesians 5: Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and game himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Galations 6: Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each others burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself.
If you think you are too important to help someone, loved ones, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important. Our teens need us to be leaders, not only in our families, MEN I am talking to you! - but also to those around you who you have influence with. I love the kids in my life, yes they drive me crazy, let me down at times, and all those things but I love them regardless. Many times I am enjoying them smile and being there for them when they need a lift, an encouraging word, or an ear to talk to. They need guidance, not another friend - they have plenty of those, but a spiritual leader who has their back, who will gently realign them and cheer for them in life. Nothing is more important than a kind word or a "You Can Do It" from someone they respect and listen to. Especially when its not their parents!
~Youth ministry is relational. Without relationship you can only be surface level. How are you? The weather is great! How is school? - nothing of importance in those conversations. When you are flexing flexibility, sensitivity and some wisdom ...then you are getting somewhere.
~Youth leader, you teach and model Gods ways in all you do and all you say so walk the walk and talk the talk. You have to have genuine faith and to be effective you must spend time with God, pray and model for your students. They will give us plenty of grace for their ups and down of walking with Christ but in the end we have to model to them that we are growing and walking with Christ. For your students, if you are hungry and thirsty for Christ, chances are they will be as well.
~Youth leader, we must have healthy relationships outside of the students. We all need someone in our lives who we can connect with that are other God loving adults who sharpen us. A leader who goes without being renewed will burn out or fizz out spiritually. We cannot always be in the lead role.
~Youth leader, you need accountability. If there is something in your life you are struggling with. Confess it and make it public to those trusted peeps in your life. They will hold you accountable and will make sure your walk is on the straight and arrow. Without it, you will surely fall back to those same habits. Your faith is not meant to be alone ... we all need someone to walk with us. Your students may look to you for this role in their life ... embrace it and hold it to the highest standards that you can. Get help if needed by more experienced and wise counsel if the situation is too much.
~Youth leader, you need to worship! Worship should flow out of your heart because it shows the love you have in your heart for Christ. I often use worship music to fill my heart up so that I can pour out the extra I have into them. I am especially pumped for Jeremy Camp next week and then Nov 3rd 10th Ave North... Brandon is leading worship tomorrow night and a bunch of us are going! This is getting your worship on! Yes music our students listen to is pretty well, out there and probably not the best example of honoring God many times. But, provide them an example without putting them down. Our parents didn't like our music either!
I have been leading in the church now for a few years in a few different roles. Working with youth and leading has got to be the toughest role in the church. Little did I know entering this ministry I would become a pastor to dozens of teenagers. Be preparing lessons each week not only for student ministry but also for my small group both adults and students. Little did I know that I would spend so much of my own money on McDonalds after LOL, Chikfila when a student wants to talk, Starbucks when a walk and talk is in order, and gas money driving around picking students up to get them places. Never did I imagine there wouldn't be much time for the gym and thus my Crestor expense has went up because of not working out and all the meals I am eating at McDonalds, Chikfila and Bojangles. :) - Never did I thought I would be texting but in order to communicate with students... my thumbs are worn down from the daily text messages hitting my phone all day and even in the night. Never would I have thought I would be in the middle of family issues that were not my own family. I have always been a good listener but this takes it to the next level! I never would have thought this ministry would take up so much time. Especially away from my own family.
I am often times wanting to pinch myself - I get overwhelmed at times with emotion knowing that God has allowed me to be this much of an influence in the lives of others. I cannot believe how much my heart is connected to these students and their families that they really feel like family to me. They are so much a part of who I am. I hope when I am dead and gone, folks will remember me for that. Living a life serving others and a friend to many. A real friend. A friend that will pray for you every day, ask for your forgiveness, grant you the same and be a friend always. Thats grace. That kind of grace can only be experienced through Jesus.
I am living life larger than life itself. I am grateful in so many ways.
I will end this long heart felt post today with this:
Galations 6: 10 - Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially those who belong to the family of believers.
Loved ones, we are all the same on the inside and God loves each of us. Extend grace where grace is needed. Let us encourage one another with kind and loving words. Reach out to those who need a hand and smile. It reflects your heart.
Lonnie~
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
The Grace Card movie - A- will be my stand review on this movie. It was pretty cool being at my first movie screening. There were lots of goodies handed out, a tshirt and a fella spoke afterwards from the movie producer and answered questions that we all had. There were about 140 or folks there of almost every age group. I do think the movie had its slow parts but half way through it made up for it. It took some time to really set the stage of where the dad was at in his life before the movie kicked up a few notches. Carol cried mostly towards the end and I admit shedding a tear or two was easy to do. Powerful movie that extends the real definition of Grace.
Grace is a gift we dont deserve. Its like the passing over while waiting trial ... Grace is not something you earn as Grace is harder to give than to receive.
As I broke out a pen and note paper during the movie to jot down a few notes ... these are just a few of the nuggets I got to write down. There are plenty more and I will dig into this Grace over the next few days.
~Sometimes when we need a life lesson, God sends us a teacher. - WOW, that really blows me away. It shows me that a teacher in life that Gods sends us doesnt have to be a person to lead us so much but to show us things. To point out where our hearts are and what we are thinking. A teacher can be a person that we get along with most times but what about the ones that we dont get along with? A boss that is just a pain in the you know what? Did God put him or her in your life or did God put you in THERE life? That will make you think for sure.... Life lessons don't always have to be about situations or results of our decisions - they can be often times people that God puts in our life to teach us, show us and guide us.
~Monday to Saturday .... is the game. Think of it as football in the game of life. We as followers of Christ actually play the game we learn about on Sundays! Sunday is the "Locker room" where we learn the plays, learn the timing, form bonds with our teams .... dude that is good stuff right there!
~ A kind word can go a long way. - I cant' tell you how many times I have been part of the end result in parents and teens going at it because of getting the last word in. I am guilty of that in my own life ...and not with just my parents. Our nature is to get our own way and in doing so - getting the last word in is an attempt to do that...and when that last word gets in its that persons last stance because they know they are losing. THose are usually the tough words that should have stayed quiet. Christ shares with us to use our words to build people up and not tear them down. Our words can be building blocks to someone - they can change a persons entire outlook in their day or even in their week with one kind word. We don't know that persons story behind the counter, or that young lady serving you the sweet tea.
I have really been making this a point in my life the last few weeks. There is nothing like speaking the persons name and having that conversation while you get your meal, while she rings up the milk and bread ... Nothing like a kind word.
Son, awesome job on the report card. I love you honey and dad is proud of you. You can do this!
So often all we need is a little whisper telling us we can do it.... to lift our spirits and succeed.
One thing I walked away with last night from the movie as I look into my leadership role in Student ministry is the fact that the students are listening to my faith and watching my life. they are counting on me having a genuine but not perfect walk with Jesus. I always have to know that my faith, YOUR faith, is lived out loud by our actions and not just our words. Even when we slip up, show spiritual leadership in the way you humbly and correctly deal with mistakes and strive for Gods best.
Think that would work in your family? Think that would work with the relationships at work? How about your kids?
More tomorrow loved ones.... Bible Study tonight - I am pumped to be with this family God has placed in my life.
Lord bring Your word tonight - help them have the confidence to walk and shine for you. Move their hearts Lord no matter where they may be today. Give us a kind word as we spent and invest time together this evening. May the talks afterwards be focused and centered around you. May you be happy and glorified in all that takes place this evening. We love and praise you Lord.... thank You for giving me the chance to walk with these students, their families and the leaders around me. I pray in Your sons mightly and holy name in Jesus. Amen
Grace is a gift we dont deserve. Its like the passing over while waiting trial ... Grace is not something you earn as Grace is harder to give than to receive.
As I broke out a pen and note paper during the movie to jot down a few notes ... these are just a few of the nuggets I got to write down. There are plenty more and I will dig into this Grace over the next few days.
~Sometimes when we need a life lesson, God sends us a teacher. - WOW, that really blows me away. It shows me that a teacher in life that Gods sends us doesnt have to be a person to lead us so much but to show us things. To point out where our hearts are and what we are thinking. A teacher can be a person that we get along with most times but what about the ones that we dont get along with? A boss that is just a pain in the you know what? Did God put him or her in your life or did God put you in THERE life? That will make you think for sure.... Life lessons don't always have to be about situations or results of our decisions - they can be often times people that God puts in our life to teach us, show us and guide us.
~Monday to Saturday .... is the game. Think of it as football in the game of life. We as followers of Christ actually play the game we learn about on Sundays! Sunday is the "Locker room" where we learn the plays, learn the timing, form bonds with our teams .... dude that is good stuff right there!
~ A kind word can go a long way. - I cant' tell you how many times I have been part of the end result in parents and teens going at it because of getting the last word in. I am guilty of that in my own life ...and not with just my parents. Our nature is to get our own way and in doing so - getting the last word in is an attempt to do that...and when that last word gets in its that persons last stance because they know they are losing. THose are usually the tough words that should have stayed quiet. Christ shares with us to use our words to build people up and not tear them down. Our words can be building blocks to someone - they can change a persons entire outlook in their day or even in their week with one kind word. We don't know that persons story behind the counter, or that young lady serving you the sweet tea.
I have really been making this a point in my life the last few weeks. There is nothing like speaking the persons name and having that conversation while you get your meal, while she rings up the milk and bread ... Nothing like a kind word.
Son, awesome job on the report card. I love you honey and dad is proud of you. You can do this!
So often all we need is a little whisper telling us we can do it.... to lift our spirits and succeed.
One thing I walked away with last night from the movie as I look into my leadership role in Student ministry is the fact that the students are listening to my faith and watching my life. they are counting on me having a genuine but not perfect walk with Jesus. I always have to know that my faith, YOUR faith, is lived out loud by our actions and not just our words. Even when we slip up, show spiritual leadership in the way you humbly and correctly deal with mistakes and strive for Gods best.
Think that would work in your family? Think that would work with the relationships at work? How about your kids?
More tomorrow loved ones.... Bible Study tonight - I am pumped to be with this family God has placed in my life.
Lord bring Your word tonight - help them have the confidence to walk and shine for you. Move their hearts Lord no matter where they may be today. Give us a kind word as we spent and invest time together this evening. May the talks afterwards be focused and centered around you. May you be happy and glorified in all that takes place this evening. We love and praise you Lord.... thank You for giving me the chance to walk with these students, their families and the leaders around me. I pray in Your sons mightly and holy name in Jesus. Amen
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
I am pretty encouraged today thinking about a few things. I am enjoying probably a short season, even if it shouldnt be, where folks have been saying thank you for all that is going on. I spend a lot of time, energy, money and family time investing in those around me and its nice when someone stops and goes out of their way to say "Thank You".
Those are words that really humble me but also pumps me up. Its nice to have encouragement sometimes especially when one of my spiritual gifts is encouragment - its awesome to be on the receiving side sometimes. I do have a few people in my life that say those words without hesitation and it has become a part of our communication. I love that.
Tonight, I am taking a ministry break - well not really. Carol and I are headed to the movies to see a movie that is not out yet.
If you want to see the trailer - http://www.thegracecardmovie.com/ - this will get you there. It looks like a great movie with a great message of grace all through it. If this is worth seeing and showing to our Student Ministry the Flood - we will have this movie on the books for Feb of next year. I am excited to be spending some much needed time with my wife. Carol gives so much to others and her heart is open to always being there for others... especially the loved ones we are doing life with. I am looking forward to tonight and just relaxing, enjoying, laughing and probably some tears as this movie will probably bring them. Thats ok ....
Tomorrow I will have a movie review for sure.... and some thoughts on grace.
Love you all - thankful for a safe trip to NJ for my Aunt Sharon and Uncle Buster. Great news on test results that came this afternoon, our church building project will be proceeding as of this Thursday with all permits signed and delivered! Thankful for Kyle and his laugh and example in following Christ and thankful for "MyKids" ... a few of which are walking close these past few months and love that place God has us now. Shine on..... :)
Lonnie~
Those are words that really humble me but also pumps me up. Its nice to have encouragement sometimes especially when one of my spiritual gifts is encouragment - its awesome to be on the receiving side sometimes. I do have a few people in my life that say those words without hesitation and it has become a part of our communication. I love that.
Tonight, I am taking a ministry break - well not really. Carol and I are headed to the movies to see a movie that is not out yet.
If you want to see the trailer - http://www.thegracecardmovie.com/ - this will get you there. It looks like a great movie with a great message of grace all through it. If this is worth seeing and showing to our Student Ministry the Flood - we will have this movie on the books for Feb of next year. I am excited to be spending some much needed time with my wife. Carol gives so much to others and her heart is open to always being there for others... especially the loved ones we are doing life with. I am looking forward to tonight and just relaxing, enjoying, laughing and probably some tears as this movie will probably bring them. Thats ok ....
Tomorrow I will have a movie review for sure.... and some thoughts on grace.
Love you all - thankful for a safe trip to NJ for my Aunt Sharon and Uncle Buster. Great news on test results that came this afternoon, our church building project will be proceeding as of this Thursday with all permits signed and delivered! Thankful for Kyle and his laugh and example in following Christ and thankful for "MyKids" ... a few of which are walking close these past few months and love that place God has us now. Shine on..... :)
Lonnie~
Monday, October 11, 2010
Sometimes we need to lean on someone elses faith until we can stand on our own.
Those words have wrecked me for the past few weeks. I got to hear them live from Pastor Furtick at a leadership conference and after he said those words... I sat down in my chair and wept. Thats just being real. Thats just being honest and I don't care if you think that crying is for wimps or not being a man. Being a man is leading your family, listening to God and all He has to say, letting God lead your life, being humble to serve others, saying your sorry when its called for, having a heart that breaks for people in your life and even people you dont even know, and being thankful each day for what God has given you - regardless if where you are today is where you want to be.
Last night for Rock Group it was short on people but for those who came - I think it went really well. It was pointed out that being luke warm for Christ is not the best place to be. God either wants us hot or cold - either moving toward him or away from him. This non decided, gray zone of faith is a place that does nobody any good. Its like making a decision on something - sure you need to have some time and pray and seek Gods will but eventually a decision has to be made. If none is made then the situation becomes too big for us and then takes on its own direction. That pretty much leaves us helpless and no place to turn.
There are things in our lives that storm all around us. People in our lives are sick, debt is mounting, friends are walking away and saying hurtful things behind your back, you are not fitting in with the crowd you so want to be associated with that you change your appearance, talk differently, and walk away from many things, sometimes including God - to be part of that circle. You comprimise who you really are and soon forget what God has brought you through. Loss of a job and a lifestyle in an instant haunts many of us today. Children with bonus never ending energy undermine the authority of their parents. Life is hard sometimes..... and you have said the prayers, had your face in the bible, increased your alone time with Christ, have great friends to help you, - you dont know what else to do. There is no relief in sight. Paycheck is not matching the bills this month. You lost your smile and your eyes are set on the ground.
Mark 4:35-
That day when evening came, he said to his disciples, "Let us go over to the other side". Leaving the crowd behind, they took him along, just as he was, in the boat. There were also other boats with him. A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, "Techer, dont you care if we drown?" He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, "Quiet! Be still." Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, "Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?" They were terified and asked each other, "Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey him!"
I just love that story. I can so see the panic on the 12 faces and their hearts racing as they thought and felt their ship was going down. Carol, Kyle, Morgan, Donna and I were out on Lake Adger this past Saturday. There was little wind and the weather was perfect. I can remember smiling knowing I was going to be talking about this and really taking in the scenery and being on the lake. The lake was perfectly calm and everything reflected as if there were 2 of everything as object reflected off the water. It was so peaceful - I imagine it looking like that after Jesus tells the wind and waves to be still - it was perfect just like Saturday.
How is that in life when things are so out of control we turn and start bailing like the disciples did that day during the squall? Often times we want to get out of the boat and swim back to where we came from. What if you cant go back? What if life has you in a place that you cant turn and head back to shore ... to that ex wife, to that son or daughter... to that job? We cant go back but we are also not there yet. See this life is a journey - and we are not there yet. We havent reached the other side. Its the inbetween that messes us up. Is the storms that rage all around us and often times we either lose our faith or it becomes stronger. One thing for certain - I am not getting out of the boat. I may feel like quitting, I may say I am quitting but my faith and my heart and the trust I have in Christ tells me to stay on course. There is much to learn in the squall of life.
One thing I have learned over the past few years is the importance of a spiritual family. They hold me accountable, they do life with me, they hurt when I hurt, they share smiles when there is victory, they are there no matter what is going on. I told those there last night that I was not letting them out of the boat. There was no jumping ship - no matter what is crashing around them. I am not letting them give up. We need to do that for each other. Satan doesnt care about your job, your heart, the sex you are having without being married, the lies you tell others - he cares only about your faith. Take that away and the rest will come - those things will happen loved ones. If your heart is not in alignment with Christ - those things you are seeking are yours. One day you will own that stuff .... and the stuff is not what God is after. When we are alone - we do the most damage to our lives. I dont mean alone as in not having a wife or a husband or a boyfriend or girlfriend ..I am talking spiritually alone.
Together, we can stand firm, arms wrapped around each other, in tune with each others world and stay the course. Often times we give up right when we are about to turn the corner. Our prayers and belief that God can do imaginable things in us and through us ...we give up right before they happen. Stay the course loved ones, we are not there yet.... and I am not letting you out of the boat. I know you would do the same for me.
Often times, we have to lean on someone elses faith before we can stand on our own.
Lonnie~
Those words have wrecked me for the past few weeks. I got to hear them live from Pastor Furtick at a leadership conference and after he said those words... I sat down in my chair and wept. Thats just being real. Thats just being honest and I don't care if you think that crying is for wimps or not being a man. Being a man is leading your family, listening to God and all He has to say, letting God lead your life, being humble to serve others, saying your sorry when its called for, having a heart that breaks for people in your life and even people you dont even know, and being thankful each day for what God has given you - regardless if where you are today is where you want to be.
Last night for Rock Group it was short on people but for those who came - I think it went really well. It was pointed out that being luke warm for Christ is not the best place to be. God either wants us hot or cold - either moving toward him or away from him. This non decided, gray zone of faith is a place that does nobody any good. Its like making a decision on something - sure you need to have some time and pray and seek Gods will but eventually a decision has to be made. If none is made then the situation becomes too big for us and then takes on its own direction. That pretty much leaves us helpless and no place to turn.
There are things in our lives that storm all around us. People in our lives are sick, debt is mounting, friends are walking away and saying hurtful things behind your back, you are not fitting in with the crowd you so want to be associated with that you change your appearance, talk differently, and walk away from many things, sometimes including God - to be part of that circle. You comprimise who you really are and soon forget what God has brought you through. Loss of a job and a lifestyle in an instant haunts many of us today. Children with bonus never ending energy undermine the authority of their parents. Life is hard sometimes..... and you have said the prayers, had your face in the bible, increased your alone time with Christ, have great friends to help you, - you dont know what else to do. There is no relief in sight. Paycheck is not matching the bills this month. You lost your smile and your eyes are set on the ground.
Mark 4:35-
That day when evening came, he said to his disciples, "Let us go over to the other side". Leaving the crowd behind, they took him along, just as he was, in the boat. There were also other boats with him. A furious squall came up, and the waves broke over the boat, so that it was nearly swamped. Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, "Techer, dont you care if we drown?" He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, "Quiet! Be still." Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, "Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?" They were terified and asked each other, "Who is this? Even the wind and the waves obey him!"
I just love that story. I can so see the panic on the 12 faces and their hearts racing as they thought and felt their ship was going down. Carol, Kyle, Morgan, Donna and I were out on Lake Adger this past Saturday. There was little wind and the weather was perfect. I can remember smiling knowing I was going to be talking about this and really taking in the scenery and being on the lake. The lake was perfectly calm and everything reflected as if there were 2 of everything as object reflected off the water. It was so peaceful - I imagine it looking like that after Jesus tells the wind and waves to be still - it was perfect just like Saturday.
How is that in life when things are so out of control we turn and start bailing like the disciples did that day during the squall? Often times we want to get out of the boat and swim back to where we came from. What if you cant go back? What if life has you in a place that you cant turn and head back to shore ... to that ex wife, to that son or daughter... to that job? We cant go back but we are also not there yet. See this life is a journey - and we are not there yet. We havent reached the other side. Its the inbetween that messes us up. Is the storms that rage all around us and often times we either lose our faith or it becomes stronger. One thing for certain - I am not getting out of the boat. I may feel like quitting, I may say I am quitting but my faith and my heart and the trust I have in Christ tells me to stay on course. There is much to learn in the squall of life.
One thing I have learned over the past few years is the importance of a spiritual family. They hold me accountable, they do life with me, they hurt when I hurt, they share smiles when there is victory, they are there no matter what is going on. I told those there last night that I was not letting them out of the boat. There was no jumping ship - no matter what is crashing around them. I am not letting them give up. We need to do that for each other. Satan doesnt care about your job, your heart, the sex you are having without being married, the lies you tell others - he cares only about your faith. Take that away and the rest will come - those things will happen loved ones. If your heart is not in alignment with Christ - those things you are seeking are yours. One day you will own that stuff .... and the stuff is not what God is after. When we are alone - we do the most damage to our lives. I dont mean alone as in not having a wife or a husband or a boyfriend or girlfriend ..I am talking spiritually alone.
Together, we can stand firm, arms wrapped around each other, in tune with each others world and stay the course. Often times we give up right when we are about to turn the corner. Our prayers and belief that God can do imaginable things in us and through us ...we give up right before they happen. Stay the course loved ones, we are not there yet.... and I am not letting you out of the boat. I know you would do the same for me.
Often times, we have to lean on someone elses faith before we can stand on our own.
Lonnie~
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Our faith is like a muscle. We each have this muscle and over time it either becomes stronger or weaker. I continue to press on with trying to keep my faith muscle as strong and as in shape as I can be. I listen to preachers teach the word of God, I attend church as much as I possible can, I visit other churches and learn through their systems and leaders and how refreshing to get anothers heart for God, as well as reading as much as I can get my hands on - but more importantly - I am in the mess of peoples lives and doing life with them and not just standing on the corner yelling at them. I also take time and I admit I need more time to do this - of down time. One on one time alone with Christ. You may be thinking dang dude, you are busy how to you do all this? Yes I am busy but I cant afford not to make time for Christ. I can't look at my family and properly lead them, I cant look my son and wife in the eyes and know they have my whole heart, I cant lead the students in my life, I cant be that fatherly figure to "mykids" the way God has called me - IF I DONT LOVE GOD FIRST ABOVE All THINGS.
Matthew 22: Shares with us the greatest commandment as the Pharisees question Jesus and try to trick him into saying something that would swerve their agenda over his. Jesus handles it perfectly when he says:
Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the law? Jesus replied, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it, "Love your neighbor as yourself".
As I do life with so many people it becomes increasingly difficult to have enough faith at times for all to lean on. I heard Pastor Furtick say a few weeks ago, Sometimes we need someone elses faith until we can stand on our own. - That still rings in my ears and pressures my heart today. This past weekend as I reflect back on my walks on the beach and my time spent with Kyle - we left foot prints in the sand. They are only temporary and in time the wind and the waves will wash the evidence away as if we were not even there. I think about all the seeds I am sowing and the lasting impressions of Christ I am leaving behind for others. I am no more spiritual than anyone around me - I think in some ways I am just a little more hungry than they are. I seek wisdom from God and not myself. I don't want to go somewhere where God is not and it takes work to be able to do that. It takes time spent in Gods word, Speaking God word not only in what you say but in what you do - thus Doing Gods word.
Those 3 things make it Faith ~ ALIVE.
Hearing Gods word initiates our faith. Speaking Gods word activates our faith. Doing Gods word demonstrates our faith.
A lot of people get the information in Gods word but no real transformation happens because we don't do anything with it.
I am guilty of this as well but I see it every single day where students for example claim to shining for Christ but are no different than the people around them in their classes and in their school. They don't stand out in any way what so ever other than the fact they go to church on Sundays, sometimes, and maybe attend a Wed night service with their friends. Jesus hung out with sinners, bad people, worst of the worst - not so that he can boast about them but to transform them to preach the Good News through their transformed lives. We cannot surround ourselves with people like us, who looks like us, who we are comfortable with, who believe like us, who live in the same social scene as we do - sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone and be in a place in our hearts that hurt for people. No matter their background or where they are in life.
I think for many reasons, that is why I love going to the Center of Hope at the Salvation Army in Charlotte. It gives us a chance to extend grace to these hurting folks. Christ would have been there and so should we. We need to rise up loved ones and work to Hear Gods word, Speak Gods word and DO Gods word in our lives. God has to do something in us before He can do something through us. That change begins by filling our hearts with the things of Him and letting go those material worldly things that keep our faith where it rests today.
Are you planting seeds in the lives of the people around you for Christ? Are you just going through the motions, going to school, doing enough to get by, doing 8-5 in your job or sitting on the couch in the evenings instead of leading and engaging in your family?
There is SO much more going on that what we see. Sad that far too many of us are feared to step up and step out.
If you will commit to a life of consistently hearing, speaking and doing Gods word, your faith will start to swell and your spirit will gain size incrementally but also substantially.
Mature your faith ... and as Peter did in Matthew 14 - get out of the boat because of your faith.
Lonnie~
Matthew 22: Shares with us the greatest commandment as the Pharisees question Jesus and try to trick him into saying something that would swerve their agenda over his. Jesus handles it perfectly when he says:
Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the law? Jesus replied, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it, "Love your neighbor as yourself".
As I do life with so many people it becomes increasingly difficult to have enough faith at times for all to lean on. I heard Pastor Furtick say a few weeks ago, Sometimes we need someone elses faith until we can stand on our own. - That still rings in my ears and pressures my heart today. This past weekend as I reflect back on my walks on the beach and my time spent with Kyle - we left foot prints in the sand. They are only temporary and in time the wind and the waves will wash the evidence away as if we were not even there. I think about all the seeds I am sowing and the lasting impressions of Christ I am leaving behind for others. I am no more spiritual than anyone around me - I think in some ways I am just a little more hungry than they are. I seek wisdom from God and not myself. I don't want to go somewhere where God is not and it takes work to be able to do that. It takes time spent in Gods word, Speaking God word not only in what you say but in what you do - thus Doing Gods word.
Those 3 things make it Faith ~ ALIVE.
Hearing Gods word initiates our faith. Speaking Gods word activates our faith. Doing Gods word demonstrates our faith.
A lot of people get the information in Gods word but no real transformation happens because we don't do anything with it.
I am guilty of this as well but I see it every single day where students for example claim to shining for Christ but are no different than the people around them in their classes and in their school. They don't stand out in any way what so ever other than the fact they go to church on Sundays, sometimes, and maybe attend a Wed night service with their friends. Jesus hung out with sinners, bad people, worst of the worst - not so that he can boast about them but to transform them to preach the Good News through their transformed lives. We cannot surround ourselves with people like us, who looks like us, who we are comfortable with, who believe like us, who live in the same social scene as we do - sometimes we have to get out of our comfort zone and be in a place in our hearts that hurt for people. No matter their background or where they are in life.
I think for many reasons, that is why I love going to the Center of Hope at the Salvation Army in Charlotte. It gives us a chance to extend grace to these hurting folks. Christ would have been there and so should we. We need to rise up loved ones and work to Hear Gods word, Speak Gods word and DO Gods word in our lives. God has to do something in us before He can do something through us. That change begins by filling our hearts with the things of Him and letting go those material worldly things that keep our faith where it rests today.
Are you planting seeds in the lives of the people around you for Christ? Are you just going through the motions, going to school, doing enough to get by, doing 8-5 in your job or sitting on the couch in the evenings instead of leading and engaging in your family?
There is SO much more going on that what we see. Sad that far too many of us are feared to step up and step out.
If you will commit to a life of consistently hearing, speaking and doing Gods word, your faith will start to swell and your spirit will gain size incrementally but also substantially.
Mature your faith ... and as Peter did in Matthew 14 - get out of the boat because of your faith.
Lonnie~
Monday, October 4, 2010
I am gaining steam this morning and thats a good thing for Monday morning and a busy week ahead. This past weekend Carol, Kyle and I were invited the beach and I very much enjoy being at the beach. There is nothing better than getting alone for a little while and just taking in all that God has created and all that God is doing.
This past Saturday I really found myself in a worship mode that I have not been in in a long time. It was so refreshing to really feel God being close and feeling His loving hands touching my heart. It was really awesome and Kyle and I spent a lot of time together Saturday, walking on the beach, hitting the inlet and looking through the tide pools at low tide, a view from the 18th floor at the hotel up the street as well as talking with all the fisherman. One fisherman we stopped to talk with spoke of my cross on my neck and he was telling us in broken English that Christ saved him a few months ago when a stingray stung him and the stinger went all the way through 2 fingers and into his hand. He said the pain was unreal and the doctors told him and his family he would lose both fingers. He had all of them Saturday and a scar to prove the story. Kyle and I also got to hang for a wedding that was taken place on the beach and as the pictures started and the celebration got under way - Dolphins jumped in the water not far from where we were. The topping was the sunset that evening and I couldnt help but to think about my mom. She loved the beach and I spent extra time picking up shells and just taking in all that was unfolding around us.
I am reminded this morning that no matter where you are in life. No matter how hard things are or you're feeling in the dumps because of your job, your marriage or that boyfriend or girl friend is just not working out. No matter if you are struggling with an illness or 12 years old or 45+.
Psalm 62:11-12 puts everything into focus.
One thing God has spoken;
Two things I have heard:
That you Oh God are strong;
and that you, Oh Lord, are loving.
Surely You will reward each person
according to what they have done.
God tells us 2 things in this passage and its a reminder for us all- that He is great and that he is good. Those are the 2 basic child like faith foundation pieces that we all have to grab hold of and hang on to no matter what we are dealing with, how bad things are, or even how awesome life is today.
Mom, I miss waking in the morning and smelling the coffee brewing, the bacon cooking and the warmth from the kitchen. I rejoice in the mornings because you were a morning person and it delighted you SO much to have your son home and sleeping in the back room. I smile when I remember you getting up at 5 to make your biscuits and I would come walking down the hallway and sit at the table, half asleep and you would smile at me and walk over with a cup of coffee and place it in front of me. I remember the "Good Mornings" and then talk through the day ahead. We would talk until it was all worked out and our hearts were in the right place and everything was ok. I miss you mom and the beach this weekend reminded me that all is ok. Bad things happen in this broken world but ignoring all the things this life hands us - I can rest in the fact that God is great and that He is good. My prayers this weekend had some extra zeal to them - not only for me but also for my family and for a few of the kids that are in my life who are like my own. God knew before I did that I would have many children - I smile thinking about that.
God for sure has given me a life so much bigger than I ever imagined living on my own. I couldn't live with my heart wide open like this without Him being the center of it.
It changes everything.........You mom were a big part in that. You raised my expectations in my life. Something that I get to try to do for the youth in my life and who's heart I get to touch. Christ calls us to rise up and raise the bar high in life - aim high and you will hit high-
While many of today's teens are lining up to see the movie Twilight - some are feeding thousands, some are raising awareness, some are leading youth groups in their schools, some are shining bright for Christ, some are clearing lunch rooms, some are leading their families.....
For me mom, it began with a those early morning talks over a cup of coffee with bacon cooking on the stove and your biscuits rising to the occasion.
Life is smaller than we make it out to be ... but then - sometimes we get it backwards and then our life IS bigger than we make it out to be and thats because ... some live insignificantly so we can do something significant.
Only God could vision that plan for our lives.
SO grateful this morning.....
Lonnie~
This past Saturday I really found myself in a worship mode that I have not been in in a long time. It was so refreshing to really feel God being close and feeling His loving hands touching my heart. It was really awesome and Kyle and I spent a lot of time together Saturday, walking on the beach, hitting the inlet and looking through the tide pools at low tide, a view from the 18th floor at the hotel up the street as well as talking with all the fisherman. One fisherman we stopped to talk with spoke of my cross on my neck and he was telling us in broken English that Christ saved him a few months ago when a stingray stung him and the stinger went all the way through 2 fingers and into his hand. He said the pain was unreal and the doctors told him and his family he would lose both fingers. He had all of them Saturday and a scar to prove the story. Kyle and I also got to hang for a wedding that was taken place on the beach and as the pictures started and the celebration got under way - Dolphins jumped in the water not far from where we were. The topping was the sunset that evening and I couldnt help but to think about my mom. She loved the beach and I spent extra time picking up shells and just taking in all that was unfolding around us.
I am reminded this morning that no matter where you are in life. No matter how hard things are or you're feeling in the dumps because of your job, your marriage or that boyfriend or girl friend is just not working out. No matter if you are struggling with an illness or 12 years old or 45+.
Psalm 62:11-12 puts everything into focus.
One thing God has spoken;
Two things I have heard:
That you Oh God are strong;
and that you, Oh Lord, are loving.
Surely You will reward each person
according to what they have done.
God tells us 2 things in this passage and its a reminder for us all- that He is great and that he is good. Those are the 2 basic child like faith foundation pieces that we all have to grab hold of and hang on to no matter what we are dealing with, how bad things are, or even how awesome life is today.
Mom, I miss waking in the morning and smelling the coffee brewing, the bacon cooking and the warmth from the kitchen. I rejoice in the mornings because you were a morning person and it delighted you SO much to have your son home and sleeping in the back room. I smile when I remember you getting up at 5 to make your biscuits and I would come walking down the hallway and sit at the table, half asleep and you would smile at me and walk over with a cup of coffee and place it in front of me. I remember the "Good Mornings" and then talk through the day ahead. We would talk until it was all worked out and our hearts were in the right place and everything was ok. I miss you mom and the beach this weekend reminded me that all is ok. Bad things happen in this broken world but ignoring all the things this life hands us - I can rest in the fact that God is great and that He is good. My prayers this weekend had some extra zeal to them - not only for me but also for my family and for a few of the kids that are in my life who are like my own. God knew before I did that I would have many children - I smile thinking about that.
God for sure has given me a life so much bigger than I ever imagined living on my own. I couldn't live with my heart wide open like this without Him being the center of it.
It changes everything.........You mom were a big part in that. You raised my expectations in my life. Something that I get to try to do for the youth in my life and who's heart I get to touch. Christ calls us to rise up and raise the bar high in life - aim high and you will hit high-
While many of today's teens are lining up to see the movie Twilight - some are feeding thousands, some are raising awareness, some are leading youth groups in their schools, some are shining bright for Christ, some are clearing lunch rooms, some are leading their families.....
For me mom, it began with a those early morning talks over a cup of coffee with bacon cooking on the stove and your biscuits rising to the occasion.
Life is smaller than we make it out to be ... but then - sometimes we get it backwards and then our life IS bigger than we make it out to be and thats because ... some live insignificantly so we can do something significant.
Only God could vision that plan for our lives.
SO grateful this morning.....
Lonnie~
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)